My mum’s husband is so cheap he makes us eat kids meals at restaurants’
A woman has grown extremely frustrated at her mum’s husband, after he forced everyone to downgrade their meals and even encouraged them to eat kids meals to reduce the cost
We all know someone a little cheap. Whether it’s that friend who promises to buy you a drink instead of paying for the taxi into town and always conveniently forgets, or your auntie who will only by food from the supermarket when it has a yellow label on it.
On the one hand you’ve got respect their hustle, but on the other it can just be plain annoying. For one woman, who has grown sick of her mum’s husband being so damn cheap, it’s the latter.
The woman’s mum and her husband only got together when she moved out for university, and while she always believed he was generally a good guy, it’s only since the years have gone on that she got to know his frugal ways.
“At fast food places he will ask my mum to forgo cheese on her burger in order to knock a few pennies off. Out at dinner places he has asked her to forgo a drink off the menu and just fill up on water, and has suggested when they’re paying that we downgrade our meat choices for the option that is usually a pound cheaper,” she explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“Once he even asked me and my boyfriend and his niece and her friend to swap out our regular lasagne’s for the kid lasagne to save a few quid.”
However, things recently came to a head when the woman went out for dinner with her boyfriend, her mum, her mum’s husband, and some of both of their families – when he started living up to his cheap reputation.
“I brought it up and called him out over it. I asked him if he really so cheap that he would ask someone to change what meat they want or what they drink to shave off a couple of pounds. He was furious,” she continued.
“My mum jumped in and told him she wanted to know the answer, that she was tired of having her choice of food dictated and that she works hard so she can do things like eat out on occasion or spend a little something on a gift for someone she loves or cares about.
“And she hates feeling like a criminal about it. He said I was a rude little brat and I told him I was standing up for my mum who deserves to be treated better.”
The woman turned to Reddit to question whether she had been in the wrong over the incident, or whether she was justified in calling out her mum’s husband.
“He’s pressuring your mother to live a life stripped of small joys over pennies. What wonderful thing is he going to use the money for in the future that will make all the daily petty misery he causes worth it? Odds are, nothing. I bet it’s more like a mental illness than a rational plan to save money,” one Reddit user commented.
“He deserves to be called out, not have his behaviour normalised. It is not normal. Let him feel sh***y whenever he does it to understand how he makes those he does this to feel.”
Meanwhile, another added: “He seems like a cheap controlling a**hole. His reaction is normal, but seeing as your mum contributes financially, she should be able to have more freedom with her spending.”